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Below are the 14 most recent journal entries recorded in Sighted Partners of the Blind's LiveJournal:

Saturday, December 13th, 2008
8:47 am
again . . .??? and Christmas decorations
. . . Yes, again. Cane. Walmart. This time we had been Christmas shopping all day, so it could have been in one of maybe a half a dozen stores. We thought it was gone for sure this time, so we were just planning on going to buy a new one. A week or so later, a friend of ours who works at Walmart asked us if we had lost a folding cane. She went and got it for us. Now, if we go to a store and if Susan doesn't want to use it, we fold it and put it in her purse.
Also, being that it is the Christmas season, what are you guys doing about decorations. Susan has partial vision, some color and vague shapes especially peripheral vision, so we have gotten a tree and lights and colored ornaments. I also got us stockings. Her's is already overflowing, LOL. We have our patio somewhat decorated with these light-up ice cicles.
Being newly-weds, we couldn't wait to decorate for our first Christmas, we started before Thanksgiving. We have had fun finding ornaments and decorations with cool textures. I guess my question for the community is, what are you doing for decorations? When do you set them up and what kinds of decorations do you and your visually impaired significant other prefer? Do you go for textures, colors, do you decorate around a different theme every year? Basically, what do you do?
Thursday, July 10th, 2008
12:38 pm
Stick mishaps
So, I don't know if anybody else has ever experienced this, but last night I once again found myself calling a store that we just left to see if they could find my wifes cane. It is strange because I feel partially responsable for keeping track of "Barnabas" because I am the one with the working eyes. But part of me knows that it is her responsibility to keep track of her canes, and if she relies too heavily on me, she could lose it for good. The last time it was at the mall in Bloomington, Illinois where we spent the day after our wedding with several of her friends, one of whom is totally blind and also had a cane. We thought it was gone for good until I called the customer service desk. They told me that they found it and the next time we went there we retrieved. Now, back in Lincoln, her cane is currently located at customer service in the Wal-Mart here in town. We will have to go rescue him later today. I am sure that if that cane were a person, her would have some sort of separation anxiety from being left behind so much. It gives us something to laugh about. I just wounder where Barnabas will end up next.
Friday, June 20th, 2008
11:48 pm
I hope there are still people out there wanting to share comments and experiences. I just got married to the most wonderful woman that I have ever met. She is my best friend and more than I would have ever dreamed of. She also happens to be blind. So, if anybody still cares to share, I would love to read your comments.
Tuesday, February 5th, 2008
8:39 am
Hi everyone!

I see that this community is not very active, which makes me sad, but maybe we can change that! :D My name is Randa, I am sighted and am married to a man who is completely blind. We've been married for a little over 8 years and he has two daughters from a previous marriage, which I have to say I love like they were my biological children. I love my girls. Mom is still in their lives, I don't mean I have taken over as mom, just that I love them that way. Their mom is blind as well, so we all spend a lot of time together. I take everyone shopping, grocery shopping, to doctor's appointments, etc. We all have a good little friendship going which hopefully makes everything a little easier for the girls.

Anyone else? :)
Friday, November 24th, 2006
6:42 pm
The Anonymous Sighted Person
Cross-posted from my own LJ at Eric's request. I was just corresponding with a blind person from one of the many blindness related lists I am on. We've got the same brand of voice recorder, and we were figuring out how to fix some setting of his. Well, I got an email back where this person said, "I got a sighted person to help me fix it." It just struck me as kind of funny that we blinks tend to refer to sighted people who assist as "a sighted person" usually not even giving a name or anything. the person is this anonymous pair of hands/eyes that fixes lots of problems for us, reads us stuff, and so on. And on list? "A sighted person" as if we don't want to admit who they are, or even to some extent that we had to get help. Most of us like to try and figure out problems on our own, but every once in a while, we do need to look to our sighted halves for help. It almost seems like we're denying they helped us, or barely recognizing them, at the least. I know, I know, it may not be appropriate to mention names or anything, it just struck me as kind of funny and sobering at the same time to realize that we tend to do that. There they are, getting us out of scrapes, and three words on a list acknowledges that they helped us. They do lots for us, we ought to recognize them for what they do. So, Eric, thanks for all the help you've been and given and are going to give over the years. I do appreciate it.

Current Mood: thoughtful
Saturday, October 14th, 2006
8:47 pm
blindness/sighted: articles of interest
Hello All,

I just joined this community. I am forty years old and totally blind. I live in
Madill, OK which is a small town in the South Central part of the state.

I have been blind all of my life.

I work as a legal research specialist and Constitutional law analyst for a local
law firm.

I work, play and function, for the most part, in a sighted world. I have had
very little contact with the blindness community.

If you would like to know more about me, please check out my profile. I invite
you to add me as a friend if you like.

I want to share some writings with you that address the blind/sighted
communities and the problems we all face.

Some of you may have read these before.

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Peace and blessings

Shell Ministries
Wednesday, September 13th, 2006
10:21 am
A Zen Parable, Adapted
The original is set in Japan...or was it China? It's an old, old tale.

It wears well, though. This is my version, adapted for our topic of interest.

One day, a Man went to the Blind Woman seeking wisdom.

"Please, tell me about Blindness! I wish to learn."

She nodded, and said, "Very well. But first, I think we both should have some coffee." She got up and left, returning shortly with a pot and two mugs. Setting the mugs down, she began pouring. Soon, the cup began to overflow, coffee spilling over the sides onto the table. The Man watched in horror, then cried out, "Stop! Stop! It's full! It can't hold anymore!"

The Blind Woman set down the coffeepot. "Like this cup, your mind is already full of your ideas about me. It can hold no more. Before you can learn anything, you must empty your cup!"

Current Mood: tired
Friday, September 1st, 2006
6:07 pm
This was sent to me via the UUMA Huumor list.

I was listening to a lady who called a radio pastor. The pastor was a wise, grandfatherly gentleman who has that calm reassuring voice that can melt all fear.

The lady, who was obviously crying, said, "Pastor, I was born blind, and I've been blind all my life. I don't mind being blind but I have some well meaning friends who tell me that if I had more faith I could be healed."

The pastor asked her, "Tell me, do you carry one of those white canes?"

"Yes I do," she replied.

"Then the next time someone says that hit them over the head with the cane," he said. "Then tell them 'If you had more faith that wouldn't hurt!'"

(Courtesy of "The Lighter Side")
Friday, August 11th, 2006
12:14 pm
Accessible Shakespeare
[crossposted from my LJ]

Last night, kestrell and I went to see The Taming of the Shrew on the Boston Common. As ladysprite said: "I adore living in a city that both provides free Shakespeare performances every summer and that has enough people who want to see it that the Commons is half-packed an hour before showtime on a weeknight."

The production was quite enjoyable, as they usually are, but the most notable aspect of it for us was the accessibility. They had promoted this particular performance as having a descriptive track for the blind and vision-impaired. And they *far* exceeded our expectations! All the staff members had been briefed, so as soon as we approached the site, someone noticed Kes' white cane and immediately intercepted us, and brought us over to the accessibility table. There, Kes was provided with a braille program, and a wireless headset on which to listen to the descriptive audio. We were then shown to a special seating section that had been set up for us, right up front, stage right. Several staff members had clearly been assigned to this specific section, and came around frequently to check that everyone's receiver was working properly, and even asking if anyone needed help getting to the porta-potties! The describers did a 30-minute "pre-show", in which they described in detail the set and the costumes.

The show also had what they refer to as "Open Captioning". There were two scrolling text displays, one at each side of the stage, that ran subtitles. The "blind" section was quite close to one of these, so if they had any hearing-impaired friends sitting with them, they would be accomodated as well.

Kes and I have *never* seen blind patrons made so welcome, much less at a *free* event. But now we know it can be done. There were about a dozen or so blind people in the audience. Here's hoping that they do this again next year, and we get twice as many!

Current Mood: happy
Thursday, July 6th, 2006
8:56 pm
Two Questions
1) Anybody else want to post something here besides me? *grins* *hints*

2) If somebody were to start a Community specifically to write out the scripts of certain WebComics, *WITH THE ARTISTS' PERMISSION*, would anybody be interested? It's not as social as reading the stuff aloud, but it is more independent. *shrugs*

For one that made my wife LOL, check out freefall.purrsia.com, for July 7, 2006. (He updates the night before)

Current Mood: curious
7:06 pm
Preachy: Apple and the "iBlind" folks.
My wife should be the one writing this. But, she mostly leaves this community alone, so I will give my perspective. It's also a huge product endorsement, so I am going to put it behind a cut.

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Current Mood: energetic
Saturday, July 1st, 2006
9:30 am
Attempt To Stimulate Conversation--Blatant. ;)
Well, we have a community now. All...eh, two of us? :)

We'll grow. I know we will.


What has your greatest challenge been, being a Sightie in a Blind person's world?

What has been your greatest joy?

Current Mood: hopeful
Wednesday, June 28th, 2006
6:51 pm
CrossPost from my Journal: Radio Drama! (HUMOR)
This started as a very serious discussion.

Jane and I were talking about the fact that, while the various Blindness organizations do have streaming-audio radio stations (ACB Radio is best known), there is no "channel" for Blind *Kids*. I still feel that blind children need something to fill the same niche in their lives that Blue's Clues, Mr. Rogers, etc. serve for sighted kids. (Blind kids can enjoy those, too! But they aren't targeted at Blind Kids specifically, and they deserve something of their own.)

At this point, seriousness started going out the window. We got on the topic of Radio Dramas. And I had an *Idea*.

A Parody of a well-known space opera franchise with a world-wide following and,I believe, more spinoff series and movies than any other franchise in entertainment history.

You know the one!

I'd call it...

"Blindly Going!"

Yes, scraps of script are working their evil way through my mind as we speak!

"Captain, I have something on sensors!"

"Good! Put it on the main viewscreen!"

".... Ah..sir? We're all blind."

"Oh, right! OK, tell me what's out there!"


"Ensign? You have a PIT BULL for a Guide Dog?"

"Yes, sir! I'm in Security, sir!"

"Why is he whimpering?"

"He must see something that's red, sir. For some reason, he's just terrified by the color red...."

and of course,

"So, you are the Ship's Counselor? You must come from a race of stunningly attractive psionicists!"

"Actually, no. I am Ship's Counsel. Your Lawyer, sir."

"My Lawyer?"

"Yes, sir. A *Federation* Lawyer! Now, I have to be with you on every First Contact mission, and don't agree to anything without asking me first!"

(If you don't get that one, well...it's an inside joke. Me poking fun at one of the major Blindness organizations, with Federation in the name and lots of lawyers. If you do get it, take it in good fun.)

That said, a *serious* show about a starship crew where everybody is blind (that is NOT too far-fetched, btw. Consider that everything is done by instruments, even now) could be fun and interesting.
Sunday, January 15th, 2006
6:42 pm
Hello, fellow Sighties! And yes, you Blinkies as well.

The title for this page comes from a little incident near one Thanksgiving, at my father's house. Due to a major wiring malfunction (we are lucky the house did not burn down), we lost power.

"The lights went out!"

My wife, at that time my girlfriend, said, "So?"

That's been nine years, a couple moves, a marriage, and a baby ago. It's been a fun time since.

I am Eric, your moderator. Online, I am known as Talvin, or Talvin a'Marich. It's the name of an online character, and it was as Talvin that my wife Jane diannaamarich met me. Yes, we met online, met face to face, got married and are busy living ever after, usually happily.

One of my complaints, for some time, has been that there is no gathering place for those of us who are the 'Sighted Half' of a relationship. We face some unique challenges, both in ourselves and in our society. We are not blind, but culturally we may not be "Sighted" either. Some of us have learned Braille (I have not), many of us have tried our hand at recording books onto tape or MP3 (many times), all of us tend to stop and look at the world and say, "Well...but how would s/he perceive that?" And, as you probably know, that's just the tip of the iceberg. The barest tip.

We are spouses, lovers, family, friends, coworkers. We are caught between worlds--at least that is how I feel. You may feel differently. If so, share it here.

I am not going to make formal rules for this community. Anyone can join.

Anyone can leave, if it becomes necessary.

Be respectful of the beliefs, choices, and circumstances of others, and you shall enjoy the right to that same respect. If there is a problem, I'll deal with it, and my decision is final.

And please, keep your sense of humor about you.

Tell us about yourselves!
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